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Nondual Highlights: Issue #2892, Sunday, August 5, 2007

Life is what it is, you cannot change it; but you can always change yourself.

Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:

In Sufi terms the crushing of the ego is called Nafs Kushi. And how do we crush it? We crush it by sometimes taking ourselves to task. When the self says, 'O no, I must not be treated like this,' then we say, 'What does it matter?' When the self says, 'He ought to have done this, she ought to have said that,' we say, 'What does it matter, either this way or that way? Every person is what he is; you cannot change him, but you can change yourself.' That is the crushing. ... It is only in this way that we can crush our ego.

Every time that we notice its pinprick, every time that its thorns appear before our eyes, we should crush it and say, 'What are you? Are you not thorns, are you not the cause of unhappiness for others and myself as well? I do not want to see my own being in such a form, in the form of thorns! I want my being to be turned into a rose, that I may bring happiness, pleasure, and comfort to others.' If there is anything needed in spiritual teaching, in seeking truth, in self- realization, it is the refinement of the ego. For the same ego which begins by being our worst enemy, will in the end, if developed and cultivated and refined, become our best friend.

- posted to SufiMystic

When all the false self-identifications are thrown away, what remains is all-embracing love.

- Nisargadatta Maharaj, posted to ANetofJewels

Actually One Being

Once we come back to our Self, then whatever is created is happening not so much from a perspective of "What do I want?" but from a pure intention. Not an individual intention, not a collective intention, but the intention, the primal intention. It's not an intention with a choice or a chooser. It's a primary creative energy that comes from the source.

When we really have returned to the source, creation is no longer distorting itself through our wants or desires. That's when we're seeing, "What is? That's what I want. What is actually happening? That's what I desire." And I'm no longer interested in creating anything, because I realize that everything, as it is, is what I always wanted it to be. It was always my intention; I just didn't know it. I didn't really want to manifest my individual intention, I wanted to come into the purity of intention itself.

This realization doesn't obliterate duality; it liberates duality. When we come into the ultimate Truth, then our thoughts, feelings, and actions come from this self-realization. At that point, there's no sense in choosing or not choosing. There's just the watching. When the Truth is conscious instead of unconscious, it can come through and manifest purely - without any desire to do so.

You created me to remind you of this. We all create exactly what we need. When we are not conscious enough, when our self-concept is not big enough to allow us to have the wisdom that we are, to let in the divinity that we are, to let in the Buddha nature that we are, then we'll project it somewhere else. Maybe we'll create a guy called Adya. Then we'll go into a relationship, and through that relationship we'll start to realize, "That's who I am - Adya's not really Adya and I'm not really me." Then it just gets clearer and clearer, until our realization and our self-concept have gotten full enough and complete enough that we don't need to create a relationship of apparent two-ness to remind us of what we already know. But even when we see that, we'll keep doing it for the fun of it. It's a circular process.

I love this Truth so much - and by this I mean Self-love in the biggest sense - that I create you, and through you asking questions, which is really me asking questions, I get to tell myself the answers. I get to display who I am and what I know to myself. But it's actually one being: I'm not stuck being Adya. You're not stuck being you. We are stuck being It. And we realize it doesn't matter which side we're on. We're either looking for our Self with the help of creating a so-called somebody else, or we're just in the joy of revealing our Self to our Self over and over. The more we realize it's all one, the more we realize, "You know, we're really having fun."

- Adyashanti, posted to adyashantigroup

There is something so delicious about just being here with you. We spend a lot of our time at some level distracting ourselves from the depth and beauty that there is in being here together. There is a world, a transformational cauldron of presence in simply noticing this hereness and this togetherness, because the core piece of the initial separation thing is "I am alone." So we borrow each other's faces as the face of the God to open that up to the Divine wondering: "Am I alone?"

- Jeannie Zandi


Oh my beloved
Your love hit me
My heart
Couldn't contain it

I find it
I turn

Since then
I have no heart -
The Heart

in love,
yosy, posted to NondualitySalon

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