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#3145 - Wednesday, April
23, 2008 - Editor: Gloria Lee
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To live a single day and hear a good
teaching is better than to live
a hundred years without knowing such teaching.
This issue is dedicated to all our readers who live with chronic illness. Some can be named as dear friends, Susan Lucey, Mazie Lane, Tom McFerran, Yosy, and Ivan Granger. I stand in awe of each of these friends and consider them my teachers. No doubt there are others of you reading now, and we all have friends or family who may suffer as well. May rivers of compassion and blessing flow to all in need. Old age, sickness, and death were the cornerstones of Buddha's awakening. Ivan, who maintains the wonderful Poetry Chaikhana website, has shared some worthwhile thoughts on "Health, Suffering, and Spirit" in his blog.
A Blessing for One Who is Exhausted
by John O'Donohue
When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight,
The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.
Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.
The ride you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.
You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learn to receive the self
You have forsaken for the race of days.
At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.
You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.
Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.
Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.
Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.
Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.
Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.
Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.
from To Bless the Space Between Us: A Book of Blessings, by John O'Donohue
Ivan M. Granger April 22nd, 2008
We are the mirror as well as the face in it.
We are tasting the taste this minute
of eternity. We are pain
and what cures pain, both. We are
the sweet, cold water and the jar that pours.
- Jelaluddin Rumi
(See above link for complete article.)
Heres the thing: Not every disease or discomfort is meant to be overcome.
Thats a hard thing to say, and even harder to accept. But its true. If disease dares to show up in our lives, we want it fixed, removed. We want to get on with life and refuse to see disease as being part of life. Even in the holistic health community that views illness as a teacher, we often want to learn the lesson so we can quickly dismiss the teacher.
Sometimes, though, disease is an annoyingly persistent teacher. It teaches us interior awareness. Not something learned quickly. It teaches sheer endurance. And, maybe the most difficult lesson, surrender. Many of us get into the world of alternative health as a way to take control. But surrender, thats much more difficult to achieve with grace. It requires real subtlety to even distinguish between surrender and defeat. I dont think we should give in or give up. I personally keep trying new things, new approaches, new strategies. Maybe its my Aries nature, but I sometimes think of it as a sparring match. I dont necessarily get into to it to win. I just like the sparring. Like a martial artist. The back and forth teaches me more about myself.
Dont speak of your suffering He is speaking.
Dont look for Him everywhere Hes looking for you.
One other thing that has come to me over the years one of the mental reflexes for suffering is jealousy. Thats not the first emotion one normally associates with illness, but its often lurking in the background. Ive certainly noticed it.
Why should I have so much of my life and attention diverted by this, when everyone else has it so easy?
I thought I was alone who suffered.
I went on top of the house,
And found every house on fire.
- Baba Sheikh Farid
Im always being reminded that no one has it easy. Sure, some people have less struggle, while others have heartbreaking levels of suffering. But, when the weariness clears, I glimpse of a surprising truth: None of that is the point. The purpose of the human spirit isnt to be free from difficulty.
That may sound like a cold statement, but it is not. When deeply embraced, this understanding opens us to greater levels of empathy and compassion, and it begins to create a profound resilience within ourselves allowing us to encounter suffering without shutting down. In other words, if you hold in you mind the idea that suffering is inherently and always wrong, then when you encounter it, you will instinctively shut down. If, however, you accept the existence of suffering in yourself, in others your eyes and heart remain open and your hands become willing in the midst of struggles. Accepting suffering gives you greater ability to genuinely alleviate it.
Spirituality and Health
There is a related unconscious thought we often carry that suffering and illness are the sign that something is imperfect about ourselves spiritually. Saints get cancer and have heart attacks. Sages suffer epilepsy. Medicine women get migraines. The body, being a limited vehicle designed to operate in a sometimes disharmonious environment, will sometimes ail. The mark of attainment is not a lack of struggle, but how we respond to that struggle.
Our lives are simply stories. Sometimes the drama and the heat are high, sometimes they are quiet. What is important is the meaning we discover and reveal through that drama. Its a supremely difficult paradox: We have to engage intensely in the body and the challenges of life, yet, at the same time, its not personal its a fascinating story being told through us.
Bob O'Hearn photos
Bob O'Hearn photo montage http://www.pbase.com/1heart/perfection
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