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Nonduality Highlights: Issue #3358, Saturday, November 22, 2008, Editor: Mark
Meditation is needed
Only when the mind is distracted
By false imagining.
I am here.
Without joy or sorrow,
Grasping at nothing, spurning nothing,
O Master, I am here.
-Ashtavakra Gita 12:3-4, from The Heart of Awareness: A Translation of the Ashtavakra Gita, by Thomas Byrom, 1990, posted to AdvaitaToZen
When you stay in your True Self
you do not need to look after yourself.
A power will rise which is moving the earth,
which is causing the sun to shine,
which is giving the moon its brilliance.
When you are attuned to that power
you will have nothing to do,
everything will be beautiful.
That power will look after you
in a way which you cannot manage.
-Papaji, posted to SufiMystic
These blessed opportunities to notice that we're not in charge just keep coming, don't they? So the invitation of truth is total submission. Not just bending a little bit, but actually becoming broken. If we're lucky, we get broken. And the opportunities are all around us to submit. To give up trying to best, trying to win. To give up trying to push anything away. Just here.
- Jeannie Zandi
And yet, love is what we crave. There is often a love/hate relationship with the idea of love, most likely stemming from our experiences as children where we loved helplessly. We projected love out onto our loved ones - our mothers, fathers, brothers, or sisters - and at some point found our loved ones to be unreliable. We confused their actions with love and concluded that love was not trustworthy.
People are definitely not trustworthy, because in general, they are very busy protecting their story of who they think they are. Since they are mostly involved in their story, they can only give a certain amount of love before they start wondering, 'Well, when do I get mine?' And since love has been identified as being connected with another person, this sets up a whole continuation of distrust around love. But love is not a person. Love is the individual, collective, and universal soul. Love is God. Love is truth. Love is beauty. Love is peace. Love is self. To know yourself, to surrender to the truh of yourself, is to surrender to love.
Many people are aware of their resistance, and they want to surrender, but they don't know how. The only actual barrier to surrender is in not seeing the underlying story you are telling yourself about the danger of surrendering everything to love. And the degree to which you hold back surrendering everything to love is the degree to which you suffer. The degree to which you try to maintain the story about who you think you are is the degree to which you feel isolated from love. Until you realize, 'I want truth, which is love, more than anything,' you will experience yourself as separate from love. Love is the constant. Love is not an aspect of truth. Truth, God, and self are aspects of love.
What is the worst that could happen if you surrender to love? What we seem to fear the most is the broken heart. Yet the very unwillingness for the heart to be broken is the broken heart. The tragedy and the irony is that in order to avoid a broken heart, people lie in a state of broken-heartedness. In the willingness to have the heart be broken a million, trillion, zillion times, true love is revealed.
Let the whole world break your heart every instant of the remainder of your life. Then this life can be lived in service to love. It does not mean you stay in abusive relationships. It means only to stay true to that which is always true to you, and that is love. Anything else is a story. If the story is never investigated, your whole life is lived on the assumption that the story is real, and that your heart, your soul, and your love need to be protected. But that assumption is actually a denial of your heart, your soul, your love. It is the denial of self-love.
The great good news is that love is free and it has not gone anywhere. In all of these aeons that you have been hiding from love, love is still here, it is still open, it is still waiting for your commitment, still waiting for you to say, 'Yes, I give my life to the truth of love. I vow to letlove live this life as it will, for better or worse, for richer or poorer.'
Through honest self-investigation, it is possible to see why you may not be surrendering to love, and to see that you actually have the choice to surrender. It is a way to let the unconscious storylines become conscious, the unknown become known. Ask yourself this question: Why is it dangerous to surrender to love? Not why is it right to surrender to love, or why is it good to surrender to love, but why is it dangerous to surrender to love?
Let your individual consciousness drop down into the source of consciousness, into the space where all of the reasons and justifications for resisting surrender are seen simply as stories, as something made up that you can very easily let go of. Allow all of the stories, all of the defences, be seen for what they are. Are any of these stories worth keeping? What is the cost to your life?
The love that you search for everywhere is already present within you. It may be evoke by any number of people or events. A mountain can evoke this love. A sunset can evoke this love. But finally, you must realize that you are this love. The source of all love is within you.
Gangaji,from The Diamond In Your Pocket,
The Heart is petal soft in its essence, so tender. Let yourself be soft, because the other thing is too old and brittle to haul around any longer. Let yourself be made new by your willingness to be here raw, open, nothing, floating in the unknown sea of the Heart, the portal of the Beloved. This is where earth and Heaven come together, and where we are meant to be broken open, over and over.
- Jeannie Zandi
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