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#3945 - Wednesday, July 7, 2010 - Editor: Jerry Katz


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Reflections of One Life
Daily Pointers to Enlightenment

Scott Kiloby 

"This book is written from love to love. It is a daily
reminder of what you already know. Everything
a perfect expression of nothing, which is to say that
the boundary between everything and nothing is not
real. There is only ‘what is.’ That is love." 

July 7th 

Resistance in the mirror of relationship 

Each relationship is an opportunity to see whether
you are at war with life and others. If a person walks
up to talk to you today, it is an invitation to allow
awareness to fully welcome that person, to listen
intimately to what she is saying, and to be the space
in which she is speaking. This allowing is not a
doing. It is a present recognition that awareness is
always and already open, loving and compassionate.
If there is resistance within you to the person or
what she is doing or saying, the person is acting
as a mirror in which your own resistance is being
revealed. This person is showing you your illusion of
separateness. You are living in a conceptual dream
called self v. other. 

When you encounter this "other" today (and
the other includes every manifest object that
appears in awareness) notice any corresponding
resistance in the form of irritation, frustration,
unease, uncomfortableness, anger, or resentment. In
allowing your relationship to people, situations, and
things to be a mirror in which your own resistance is
being reflected back to you, the possibility of waking
up out of that resistance is available. 

July 8th 


When you identify with a role, you cannot see your
own identification. You are that role. Perhaps
you are lost in your role as a doctor, secretary, or
salesman. Or perhaps you are lost in some other role
such as recovering addict, cancer survivor, victim, codependent,
or even brother or parent. 

Roles are false, egoic identities. When you are
lost in a role, the spirit is not free to react naturally
and spontaneously to life. You are lost in a past
image of yourself. You act and react within the
pattern of that past image. You tend to treat others
according to their roles and how they relate to your
role. If you are a doctor, you see only patients. If
you are a salesman, you see only customers. If you
are a mother, you see only children. Others people
simply reflect back to you your particular role, which
strengthens the role. There is no true relationship
when images are relating to images. 

In present moment awareness, there is freedom
from all roles, identities, images, and self-concepts.
You are no longer living life through rigid thought
patterns of the past.You are free to respond to life
intelligently, naturally, and spontaneously.When you
notice each role you are playing in the moment you
play it, you are present.You are transcending that
role.This allows others the freedom to no longer
react from their roles.True relationship is then

Reflections of One Life
Daily Pointers to Enlightenment

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