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Nonduality Highlights: Issue #4312, Sunday July 17, 2011
How You Treat Others
Spiritual people often want unconditional support and understanding from their friends, family, and mates, but all too often seem blind to their own shortcomings when it comes to the amount of unconditional support and understanding that they give to others. I have seen many spiritual people become obsessed with how unspiritual others are and assume an arrogant and superior attitude while completely missing the fact that they themselves are not nearly as spiritually enlightened as they would like to think they are.
Enlightenment can be measured by how compassionately and wisely you interact with otherswith all others, not just those who support you in the way that you want. How you interact with those who do not support you shows how enlightened you really are.
As long as you perceive that anyone is holding you back, you have not taken full responsibility for your own liberation. Liberation means that you stand free of making demands on others and life to make you happy. When you discover yourself to be nothing but Freedom, you stop setting up conditions and requirements that need to be satisfied in order for you to be happy.
It is in the absolute surrender of all conditions and requirements that Liberation is discovered to be who and what you are. Then the love and wisdom that flows out of you has a liberating effect on others. The biggest challenge for most spiritual seekers is to surrender their self importance, and see the emptiness of their own personal story. It is your personal story that you need to awaken from in order to be free.
To give up being either ignorant or enlightened is the mark of liberation and allows you to treat others as your Self. What I am describing is the birth of true Love.
How many of the ways (disciplines, exercises, practices) recommended as helpful, or even necessary, for the attainment of Satori are not in fact consequences of that state erroneously suggested as means?
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There seem to be two kinds of searchers: those who seek to make their ego something other than it is, i.e. holy, happy, unselfish (as though you could make a fish unfish), and those who understand that all such attempts are just gesticulation and play-acting, that there is only one thing that can be done, which is to disidentify themselves with the ego, by realising its unreality, and by becoming aware of their eternal identity with pure being.
- Wei Wu Wei, from Fingers Pointing Towards The Moon
It is often in our workplaces that we get the most priceless opportunities to practice the teachings of Eckhart Tolle - but only if we are paying close attention.
My work takes me into a hospital as a health care provider. And every day I am connecting with patients and families who are often experiencing their darkest hours. One evening, I entered a room to give an elderly gentleman a respiratory treatment. I greeted him and his wife, and introduced myself as his therapist for the evening. The room was darkened and somber and I crossed to the side of the bed opposite the gentleman's wife. We were at the head of the bed and I could see that he looked uncomfortable, quite ill, and needing assistance. Before I even opened my mouth to explain what I was there to do, the woman began to raise her voice, and accuse me, the nurses, the doctors and the hospital of gross neglect. For a moment I was stunned, as I was in fact only there to help, but I knew in an instant that this was not a personal affront, but an expression of grief. I could feel my ego nudge me, wanting to defend my efforts, but I let it fall to the floor, roll under the bed and out the door. I knew there was no room for it. I was feeling the verbal blows from across the bed and it was a great moment, an epiphany. My arms gently fell and rested at my sides, and I listened. Her pain was expressed in every word and in every word her anger was directed at me, because it was I who happened to walk in the door. But I was glad it was me. Because I seemed to know what to do. Nothing, but listen and be acutely present.
Slowly her voice began to settle into a hush, and her agitation lessened. I still listened until I felt she had fully expressed herself. And then I listened more. My eyes never left hers, despite the accusations. And when enough silence had passed, I merely said "What can I do to help you"? At that moment, I could feel her body relax from across the bed, and saying nothing, she came around and tightly embraced me. It was authentic and I returned the gesture. And in my ear I heard her say, "Thank you for listening."
It was an experience I have found invaluable, and will never forget.
- Margaret La Vake, posted to The_Now2
Spontaneity is the essence of all natural action. In natural action the focus of interest remains neither in the past nor in the future but in the present moment, the still point of the turning world.
- Ramesh Balsekar, posted to ANetofJewels
The End of Seeking
Your restless seeking will not end until you begin seriously considering the radical possibility that THAT which you are seeking is inseparable from THIS -- the reality of your own immediate and intimate experience within the present moment.
- Metta Zetty
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